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Best Couples Strategies
- Commit a fully respectful relationship
- Treat your partner as well as you would a best friend
- Let your partner change you for the good
- Receive feedback non – defensively, and give back what your partner needs
- Commit to repairing conflict quickly
- Make requests of your partner, not accusations or complaints
- Practice at least five small loving acts per day
- Pull closer to each other during conflict, not apart
- Commit to couple only time
- Stay focused on communicating your needs clearly
Worst Couples Strategies
- Uncontrolled and disrespectful communication
- Failure to express your needs clearly and firmly
- Failure to respond non-defensively to your partner’s needs
- Criticism
- Defensiveness
- Attacking
- Withdrawal/stonewalling
- Letting anger build into contempt
- Retaliating
- Trying to control your partner
Solution Focused Parenting Tips
- Maintain a solution focus on what your child is doing well and right
- Focus on solutions, not the details of problematic behaviors
- Use respectful communication with your children
- Stay focused in the present, do not bring up old issues
- Keep interchanges short
- Do not fuel arguments, screaming matches, inappropriate behaviors
- Value your child’s feelings and opinions
- Do something different when you are stuck
- Pay attention to how your child overcomes undesirable behaviors
- Compliment as often as possible
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Debra Castaldo Ph.D |
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